Releasing Your Grip

… allows things to BREATHE.

Trying to hyper-control situations strangle-holds them.

We hold so tightly to what it is we think is right for us. In fact, we continually push our agendas forward even in the face of adversity. But to what end? Where do we stop and realize that resistance is a form of protection. If you are finding it hard to continue on in a given direction, it might be because you are not meant to. Resistance is a universal sign to back-off.  There is something there that you might not be seeing.

We are conditioned to think that if we work hard enough and push hard enough that we can alter any situation to our advantage, but that is using force to drive your life. A better way of living your life is to STOP pushing when you hit a wall and step back. Give yourself some space and time to breathe and allow what is meant to make its way to you, to get to you. Your future might need a bit of course-correction.

Your life is divine. There is an order to it. There is fate and destiny already in place. You can always use your free will to alter any and all of it, but note that you will absolutely encounter resistance if you are pushing towards the wrong conclusion. Take that as a sign to stop exhausting yourself. Take that step back so you can see more clearly. That step back will free up the energy to allow what is really meant for you to catch up with you. Time and space is the ultimate neutralizer.

You want to learn to breathe your way through your life. Controlling doesn’t secure your future, allowing does. When you are ready to release your grip on what you thought you wanted/needed, you will be able to make room for something even more beautiful. Clarity comes from releasing your grip, letting go of control and learning to trust in the process of your life to bring you to exactly where you need to be. Where else would you want to go?

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What You Focus on EXPANDS

… so focus on what you WANT, not what you don’t.

Everything is energy and where we put our focus is what we will continue to experience – whether we want to experience it or not.

It’s very simple. You do not get what you want in life by focusing on what you do NOT want.

In life, we only attract a vibrational experience that matches our own vibration. So, if our feeling is sadness and frustration and our focus is on that which we do not like about our significant other or job, then we will only succeed in creating more of the same because that is where our focus is. Whereas if we were to focus on the positive aspects of our relationship and/or job, then we would be raising our vibration and therefore able to attract a much higher outcome.

You have to feel good to have good in your life. If you feel bad, you will only be able to attract those situations that are unpleasant and unsatisfactory.  If you do not feel as if there is any good in your life to focus on, then focus on your dreams. When you focus on that which you truly want, and that which will truly make you happy, then that is all you need to feel good and then the universe can respond accordingly by bringing you more of that good feeling. This is the law of attraction – it is a spiritual law of the universe and cannot be changed.

When we learn how the universe works, we learn how to get what we want out of life. If you continually feel badly and focus on what you do not have, you will only create more lack and unhappiness. Time to learn how to play the game.  Focusing on what you DO NOT WANT in your life CAN NEVER bring you that which you truly desire, so focus on what you DO WANT. It’s the only way to make sure you get it.

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Givers and Takers

If you want to save the world, start by saving yourself.

Personal boundaries are critical in life. And most of us have never learned the art of protecting ourselves. And what’s worse, we have been wrongly programmed to think that if we give, give and give to others, it will flow back to us. Let’s clear this up… of course what we give comes back to us, but only up to a point. There has to be a self-protecting measure in place that does not allow you to give beyond your comfort level. This is the key and where most problems begin. If you give and give and fully deplete yourself, it actually has the opposite effect – you end up losing in the end.

There is a simple relationship between the givers and the takers. The givers will always be giving and the takers will always take. Why you may ask? Because these patterns (life lessons) are ingrained in us and are set-up very early in life. The givers’ lesson is to learn to give to themselves and the takers’ lesson is to learn to be less selfish and more selfless. These are basic life lessons and they play out over and over again until we learn the lesson and find the balance in our personal relationships. For example, if you are a giver and are exhausted and broken and yet still running around trying to make everyone else happy, you will continually be met with takers who are lined up to keep taking from you. You get handed lesson after lesson and if you choose to accept those lessons, the lesson continues. Once you put your foot down and say “no, I need to focus on me right now,” the lesson stops.

As a giver, it is critical that he/she learn to love themselves and start to set boundaries in all relationships. Givers need to realize that they are not supposed to save the world but save themselves so they have more to contribute successfully without running themselves ragged. A taker will always take if it is on offer. Givers who are exhausted with nothing to show for their giving will fall apart and become very resentful (rightfully so), but whose fault is it really? No one forced them to give anything to anyone. If it isn’t serving you, JUST SAY NO. That energy is much better suited being given to yourself so you have more to give to those you love.

You cannot save anyone from themselves nor are you supposed to. If you want to save the world, start by saving yourself. Give to you, so you have much more to give in all aspects of your life.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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