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… even when you think it isn’t.

You may not understand WHY things happen the way they do in your life, but that doesn’t mean that they’re NOT purposeful.

Not everything that happens to you will make sense right away. In fact, in most cases, things that you deem “bad,” will turn out to be the very best things that ever happened to you. Why, you might ask? Because we never have full clarity in the moment. We never realize why things are happening the way they are because transition stirs up the dust so we cannot see clearly. But once the dust settles, we can see why we are, where we are, and it always make sense.

All you can do in life is chart a course and then stay that course. But that does not mean that you’ll NOT be detoured off that course. In other words, you can pick a path for yourself, but if it’s a path that you’re not meant to be on, you’ll be tossed off it and thrown onto a different path. And as traumatic as that transition is, it always lands you onto a much better path. Trust that.

Trust the process of your life. Things are always working out for you, even when you do not realize that they are. The universe works behind the scenes to bring you to exactly the right circumstances for you. You may not always get what you want, but you’ll always get what you need, whether or not you know you need it at the time. Everything is always working out for you, you’re never at a loss. Once you understand that, your life will change in the most amazing ways.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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th… but you didn’t.

So move on.

Hindsight is always 20/20 but your sight in the moment is all that matters. When you make a decision, you make it with the best information you have at hand in that moment. And that is really all that matters. That is all you can do.

Circumstances and situations change all the time as people use their free will. All you can do is to acknowledge that you made the best possible decision in that moment given the information you had at hand and LET IT GO.

You cannot control every outcome. You cannot outsmart the universe. Situations unfold quite purposefully to bring you to where you need to be in your life – whether you recognize that or not.

In the moment you make a decision, recognize that at that moment in time, you made the BEST DECISION. If you made that decision from a calm, centered space and it was a decision that felt authentic to you and satisfied your needs, wants and an innate understanding of your truth, then you made the RIGHT DECISION in that moment. End of story.

It doesn’t matter what the future brings… hindsight is always 20/20 and there is always a reason why we are NOT given it upfront. If we knew all the answers before we made the decisions, we wouldn’t be learning and evolving.

Your life is always unfolding in front of you. If a decision you made seems to no longer serve you or appears to be the wrong decision for you, then it is time to make another decision. Don’t regret the decisions you make, only regret your inability to revise the equation and make amendments to it.

Life is not static… decisions are meant to evolve and grow with you. “Woulda Shoulda Coulda” is the song for victims. When you are truly empowered and in charge of your life, you realize that all is happening exactly the way it is supposed to be happening and you are being asked whether or not you can roll with the changes.

Make your decisions and DON’T LOOK BACK. Your decision was perfect in that moment. But in this new moment, you might want to readjust it slightly in order to account for your own personal evolution. Hindsight might always be 20/20 but your insight in this moment is always PERFECT.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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th-3… takes real COURAGE.

And only a small few have it.

In essence, being vulnerable is the key to your PERSONAL POWER.

Ironic… right?

Our society is obsessed with “being strong” and overcoming fears and inadequacies by overcompensating with ego. But that isn’t real courage. It’s fake. It’s a false sense of identity.

Hiding behind your ego is inauthentic to who you really are. It’s just a wall or facade that you put up for others to see while you cowardly hide behind it, with the intention of hiding all your insecurities, fears and failures.

But here’s the deal… real courage comes from inside – it is an inner strength and it’s dervived from your ability to be authentic to yourself, to be real, to acknowledge your weaknesses and recognizing that through them, your greatest strengths lie.

The ability to admit your faults, your fears, your inadequacies is what makes you truly courageous. In a world of cowards, those who can look in the mirror and own who they are, are the ones who will grow to address those faults, fears and inadequacies. Through this process, real growth and personal transformation occurs. Without this process, we become a slave to the ego and never heal our pain. We continue to mask our pain and push it down until it destroys us.

You don’t become courageous by being a coward and hiding your vulnerabilities from the world. Courage must be earned by fearlessly confronting your demons and being strong enough within yourself to wraggle them to the ground.

It is easy to sit by and pretend you do not have issues and hide them behind a thick, fancy, shiny patina. But really the question is… can you be vulnerable? Can you go deep within yourself and ask yourself who you really are and be able to unearth the negative patterns you have been unconsciously playing out? It’s only through that deep difficult work that one truly earns the title of true courage. It’s the ultimate bravery. Ignorance might be bliss…but it is NEVER courage. Being vulnerable is the only real courage.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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th… it’s trying to tell you something.

Every event and every situation that shows up in your life is guiding you along your path. There are NO coincidences.

The events and situations that occur in your life are very purposeful – they are happening to awaken you and bring you to a higher level of consciousness and happiness. They are specifically bringing you to a better place – if you can pay attention to them.

Unfortunately, most people do not pay attention to their lives. They are sleepwalking their way through their lives – bumping into the same walls and hitting the same obstacles over and over again. They run the all too familiar mouse wheel of existence because it is anesthetizingly familiar.

Pay attention to your life. It has something to teach you. Wake up and listen.

Life whispers to you through every feeling you have, subtly saying, “wake up… make a turn here…. you are unhappy. Get off this road.”

Life whispers to you through every new person you encounter.

Life whispers to you through every experience and every new road you venture down.

Life whispers to you through every line in a movie and every lyric of a song.

It is always whispering… “listen to me.. pay attention to this…. this will help you… this is the answer you are seeking.”

Listen to the whispers of your life and let them lead you to the life you are meant to be living. If you do not pay attention to your life, you will miss the subtle bends in the road and may end up in a ditch.

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR LIFE, nothing haphazardly happens to you. Every situation/event is carefully orchestrated to bring you towards higher learning and a higher understanding of yourself and your needs.

Wake up. Don’t let your life pass you by without getting the meaning from it. Pay attention and catch the open doors of opportunity before they slam shut in front of you.

Your life is your road map to success… pay attention to it; it is ALWAYS trying to tell you something.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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th-1… so choose wisely.

And really choose wisely because the quality of your choices determines the QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE. It can be no other way.

You might think that sounds obvious, but this is a very misunderstood concept. We often times feel stuck with the choices we’ve made, so we never make new ones. We accept unhappiness because we cannot see any other way out. But choices are always meant to be changed. You are only stuck in the belief that you cannot change them.

It’s YOUR life… No one else’s. And if a choice you’ve made isn’t serving you (for whatever reason), make another choice. The fact of the matter is that no one has control over your life unless you give it them. And why would you do that? Why would you give up your freedom of choice and keep yourself glued to a choice you once made that no longer makes you happy? When you give up your freedom of choice, you have lost the game of your own life. And trust me, it is a game you don’t want to lose.

So what are you waiting for? Do you want to change your life? Do you want to be happy? Give yourself that chance. Recognize that we live and die by our choices and that the quality of our lives is always contingent on the quality of the choices we are making. The only thing we have in our life are our choices… so choose wisely.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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The Blame Game… has NO winners.

It takes EVERYONE down.

We all want to point fingers when a situation in our lives does not play out the way we want it to. We somehow tend to blame others for our dissatisfaction in our relationships, careers, money, weight and/or in our addiction issues. We think “well, I am this way because someone did this to me” and we point fingers at others instead of accepting responsibility for where we are now. The truth is that it doesn’t matter what happened to you in the past – it’s over – and now YOU OWN IT, how are you going to make your life better? Recognize that looking back and blaming someone will certainly not make it any better because you are the ONLY one who can make a change in your life.

The fact of the matter is … you are where you are because of the choices you have made or the choices you have ALLOWED to be made. Believe it or not, no one put you anywhere that you haven’t allowed. For example, being in an abusive relationship with someone makes you the victim of abuse; BUT recognizing that you have allowed yourself to be in an abusive relationship empowers you to accept responsibility for your choices and inspires you to make better choices for yourself moving forward. In other words, you may have suffered abuse, but no one made you stay there. Blaming the abuser will not change your life. Empowering yourself to make the decision to leave will.

Pointing the finger assures you will always be the victim of your life. But accepting responsibility for how you have gotten to where you have gotten to always empowers you to make change.

No one wins the blame game. No matter how much you want to point the finger, it will NEVER change the past. If you are blaming others for your current situation, you have missed the opportunity to make a better situation for yourself.

Don’t blame others for where you are in life. Pointing fingers will never make your life better. Accept responsibility for your where you are and make changes that have the potential to create the life you really want. Haven’t you waited long enough?

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

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th-5… for change.

Let it drive your transformation.

In other words – if it hurts you, it will change you. And that’s a good thing.

We all run from pain, no one likes to feel it. Everyone labels it as “bad.” But the reality is that it’s only through your pain that you are able to truly transform yourself because YOU HAVE TO. You can no longer go on experiencing the pain nor do you want to go back to the source that caused it. Therefore the only way through your pain is literally through it and out the other end. And that is where change lies.

When you let yourself truly feel the pain, you innately know which direction to go in, in order to heal. Just like a child touching a hot stove, it is only through the pain of a burned finger that he learns never to do that again, never to engage in similar behavior again.

If you never allow yourself to feel the pain, how can you transform the behavior? You can’t. If you ignore the pain and push it down, where’s the learning? There isn’t any. Where there is no pain, there can be no transformation and where there is no transformation, there can never be growth and with no growth, there can be no happiness. It’s a simple as that.

You always have a choice. But the highest choice is to allow yourself to feel the pain, hit rock bottom with it and let it transform you from a stubborn caterpillar into that beautiful butterfly. And as we all know, the view from above is always much more liberating.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to read some reviews on Donnalynn’s Coachingclick here.

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