Being Hard On Yourself

… doesn’t make things easier for you.

It makes them HARDER.

Things may not always go the way you intended them to go and that has to be ok. Sure it might be upsetting and sure you might have wished you’d done things differently, and sure you might’ve even tried another approach to fix things but unfortunately was unable. What do you do now?

You can’t change what’s done. Focusing on the disappointment of the past keeps you trapped there. Learning the lesson from that experience frees you to move on.

Learning what you will never do again is by far one of the most powerful lessons one can learn. Transformation is never easy. If it doesn’t hurt, it’ll probably never change you.

Being hard on yourself is never the answer. Transformation is hard work. If you beat yourself up over your learning process, you’ll just impede your growth. Mistakes make you better if you learn from them. Don’t waste your time lamenting those mistakes, use that time to apply the learning and make your future better because of it.

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Beating Yourself Up

… only brings you DOWN.

Where else could it bring you?

Being hard on yourself doesn’t make your life easier, it complicates things because it puts yourself in YOUR OWN WAY.

Life presents many challenges and when you’re hard on yourself, you add more challenge onto your plate and it’s self-inflicted. And for what? To make life harder? Why fight yourself? Why not work WITH YOURSELF to find solutions instead?

Regret is useless. You cannot change the past. But you CAN learn from it’s wisdom and make your future better for it.

Don’t spend time getting caught up in focusing on your faults/mistakes. Get the lesson from them and get out. Move forward and make your life better because of them. Great wisdom only comes from those faults/mistakes; they make you better. But if you beat yourself up over them, you use them as a weapon to take yourself out. And why would you use the experience that made you better as an excuse to sabotage yourself?

Recognize that wisdom comes from our mistakes. Don’t spend time beating yourself up. Spend that time applying the learning and your life will blossom in the most amazing ways.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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