Compromising Yourself

… gets you compromised.

How could it not?

When you feel as if you have to be something or do something that is inauthentic to who you are, you are compromising yourself. If you feel you have to compromise who you are in order to fit into a given situation or a relationship, then it ISN’T THE RIGHT ONE for you.

In life, you get what you accept and if you are compromising yourself to fit into a less-than-ideal situation, then you are only hurting yourself. You are also telling the universe that you do NOT want better and that you are ok with changing yourself for this less-than-desirable outcome. Why would you do that?

The right situations for you in life require YOU TO BE YOURSELF. As soon as you realize that you are in territory where you have to compromise yourself, recognize that that is territory where you DO NOT BELONG. Staying there and trying to fit in will never make it right for you, it will just dilute your power and weaken you. When you compromise yourself for someone or something, you are not operating at peak capacity and thus will never rise to your potential.

Do you want to live the higher side of your life or do you want to undermine yourself to fit into someone else’s half-hearted vision? Compromising yourself gets you compromised. Accepting less than who you are will NEVER GIVE YOU MORE. Be yourself and walk the path of your own life. If who you are (as you are) doesn’t work for someone, then that person doesn’t work in your life. Don’t take yourself down to someone else’s level, keep moving up, the view from the atop always puts you on top of the world.

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Second Guessing Yourself

…runs you in circles.

It keeps you in a self-imposed loop of doubt. When in reality, you knew the right answer all along.

Listen to yourself. Your FIRST impression is ALWAYS the right one. It comes from your intuition – your heart, your inner knowing, you inner feeling – without bias, without overthinking it.

Your 2nd impression comes from the mind. It intervenes and tries to interject an element of FEAR or CONTROL into the situation to give it substantiation, negation or rationalization.

Don’t make yourself crazy. If it feels right, IT IS RIGHT. If it doesn’t feel right somehow, it will never change for you. Your intuition always knows what is right, the trick is getting your mind to shut up long enough for you to hear it.

Second guessing yourself runs you in circles. Going back is NEVER the answer. Going back will never change the outcome for you; it will just keep you stuck in a cycle of self-doubt.

Honor yourself. Learn to trust in the wisdom of your soul. Don’t go back. Recognize that if it didn’t feel right initially, it isn’t right and it will not all of a sudden become right for you. Don’t waste your time second guessing yourself, give yourself that time to open up to what is truly right for you and call it forth into your life. The sooner you can move beyond your self-imposed hole of self-doubt, the sooner you can move forward with your life.

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To Be a Beautiful Snowflake

… you have to stand out in the COLD.

And no one likes to stand out in the cold. It usually means that you are alone and uncomfortable.

But the snowflake can only exist out in the cold. It is the only place that can support it.

We are all beautiful snowflakes – one-of-a-kind, original and unique. We can only thrive and be ourselves when we stand out in the cold and stand up for who we are. It is not always convenient and not always comfortable but always necessary in the evolution of our lives.

Being who you are means respecting your needs, wants, interests and fears – the whole package and standing up for it even if it is inconvenient and uncomfortable. There will even be times when you will be unpopular or even misunderstood.

No one should ever doubt themselves, their worth or their value. Everyone is unique and beautiful in their own right and everyone is worth fighting for. To truly be that beautiful snowflake, you have to stand out in the cold. It’s easy to stay inside in the warmth. It’s harder to take a stand and defend who you are by taking the road less traveled. After all, the cold isn’t for everyone, but the cold will certainly attract just the right ones to you. Do you want to be like everyone else and take the easy way out or do you want to work hard to take a stand and be yourself? The rest of your life awaits your decision. Who will you be?

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It Doesn’t Matter Who Believes In You

… as long as YOU believe in you.

When it comes to living your life, YOU are the authority. Never give your power over to anyone else to make you feel badly about yourself.

No one has control over your life unless you give it to them. If you give your power over to other people to prioritize their judgments/ opinions of you, then you lose yourself. You have no one but yourself to blame if you choose to buy into other’s opinions over your own. It is always a choice.

No one’s judgments or opinions should matter to you unless they support your view of yourself. If they do not, they should be kindly disregarded. Don’t waste your time feeling insulted, misunderstood or slighted. It is not worth your energy. Every time you choose to put your energy there, you take it away from building the beautiful being that you are and/or want to become.

It’s your life and your path to walk every day. Those people will always come and go into your life, but you will be the one left standing and upholding their judgments/opinions long after they’ve left. So ask yourself if that is what you want to be doing. Make a better life for yourself and decide today that you will only accept perceptions that are authentic to you and which support your positive growth. If those perceptions do not, throw them out and replace them with more suitable options.

The only thing we have in life are our choices. Learn to choose wisely and not give your power over to anyone else to malign you or take you down. Life is too short to play out other people’s perceptions of you. Time to live your own.

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Being Seen For Who You Are

… is the only way to be seen.

It is very important for the people in your life to see you for who you are, not who they think you should be. They do not need to agree with everything you do and say, but they must appreciate the core of who you are.

In a relationship, if you are not seen for who you are, you will never be whole. If you are contented with being seen as someone else’s version of who you are, you will always feel empty and less than who you are.

If who you are doesn’t work for someone, you let them walk away. End of story. No pretending, no charade, no negotiation.

In order to be seen for who you are, you first need to see yourself. You need to know your beauty, your gifts, your value and your worth. Once you can see yourself, you can allow others to see you. If you are still hiding behind other’s perceptions of you, you have a long way to go.

When you are ready to be seen for the beautiful person you are, you show your true colors to the world. And when you can show your true colors to the world, you attract those people who will most admire those colors in you. Are you ready to be seen or are you still hiding behind other perceptions of you? Other’s perceptions come and go, you are the one left standing. Whose perception is it going to be?

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Lemmings Follow

… they NEVER lead.

We spend a good portion of our lives giving away our power to others. We don’t always make up our own minds, we allow them to be swayed by other’s viewpoints. Sometimes it’s much easier to adopt a given school of thought then it is to apply your own intelligence to a situation. But every time you do that, you disempower yourself and lose a part of your identity.

Your work in this life is to live YOUR life. No one else’s. But if you are waiting to see what everyone else is doing or saying then you are not leading your life. You are leading someone else’s.

You are an individual and you were never meant to recede into the background as just part of the crowd, you were ALWAYS meant to stand out. Why are you hiding behind other’s approvals or judgments?

The beauty is in being YOU. Not in being part of a group. Step aside from the group and shine your light. Your uniqueness is what makes you who you are. Why would you ever hide from that?

When you live your own life and make your own choices and decide NOT to follow the crowd, your life soars in amazing ways. The universe is waiting to see whether you are ready to take responsibility for your life and truly own it or if you prefer to sit it out in the passenger seat. The rewards only come by being YOU, not by sitting it out and watching the world go by.

Leaders make a difference in the world. Followers are just along for the ride. Which one do you want to be?

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Do it Anyway

You are not always going to be appreciated for everything you do in life – do it anyway.

We talk a lot about being who you are and about not allowing yourself to feel undermined by others who do not understand you. The same goes for your initiatives in life. When you find what makes you happy and you excel at it, you should continue to do it whether or not others understand or support you.

Nothing and no one should ever hold you back from putting good out into the world. If you are contributing to the betterment of others, an organization, society, humanity, your work and life in general, then that becomes its OWN reward. Always take the higher road because it always leads you to a higher place.

This requires a shift in understanding. Our egos are so attached to being right, being accepted, being appreciated and being supported that when we do not receive that type of recognition, we get discouraged and feel deflated and sometimes lost. Generally this happens in our careers and it is partly because others are not always able to see beyond their own personal situation and that tends to complicate their perceptions of your work.

Again, you are not always going to be appreciated for everything that you do.

You are not always going to be acknowledged for everything that you do.

You are not always going to be supported to do everything that you do.

Do it anyway.

Do it regardless of the level of appreciation, support and acknowledgment you receive from others. Do it because it is who you are and do it because it makes you a better person. Leave the others in your dust. Don’t need for them to see your beauty. They will not always see your greatness. It is their loss.

Whatever it is you are doing, or want to do with your life, do not allow fear to stand in your way. Ego and judgment (by ourselves and others) are our biggest obstacles. In the face of adversity, you should be able to stand up and say “this is what I am doing” and do it anyway.

When you stop caring about the result and the approval rating, your success will trump your wildest dreams. Life is too short, get on it and do it all anyway.

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Life is Not a Popularity Contest

… it doesn’t matter who likes you, it only matters that YOU like you.

In life, you are not always going to be everyone’s cup of tea, and that HAS to be alright. Nor should you want to be everyone’s cup of tea. We are not in high school anymore, your value and self-worth should not be judged by what other people think of you. It should come from within. The only judgment we should be concerned with in life is the judgment we place on ourselves.

We tend to look outside of ourselves for validation within. We compare ourselves to others – what they are doing with their careers, how they are living, how successful they are, their relationships, etc… Your life will never be yours if you are forever looking to others for inspiration.

Here’s the deal… Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to understand you. Not everyone is going to “get you.” It’s just the way it is. Feel great about yourself anyway because who you are is ALWAYS good enough. In fact, it is better than good. It is perfect.

When you can learn to love the person that you are separate from those around you, that is when your life will really take off. Channel all that energy – thinking about all those people and what they are doing “better than you” and how you are measuring up and put that energy into your goals, your passions and really start to feed your soul from the inside-out. You will start to see that you will emanate a glow that will make others want to be near you. Popularity is an inside job. Do the work inside, and the world around you will be magnetically drawn to you. 

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