Trying To Fit In Doesn’t Get You Seen

… it gets you lost in the crowd.

We’re all here for a unique reason and that reason is to be who we are, not fit in to anyone elses’ mold.

You don’t need to be part of a group in order to be seen. When you’re in the group, you blend in and get lost. But when you can stand just outside the group, your colors shine brightly.

It is true, that being part of a group can be a way of identifying ourselves. So, go ahead, pick the group that mirrors you best and then stand just outside it. Stand far enough away from it that you can be part of it but not of it.

Take space and honor yourself. In time, the group will recognize your importance because they will be able to see you just out on the edge where you are easily identified.

Do you want your light to shine? Don’t put it out by trying to fit into the crowd. Be yourself. Your light will always light your way and it will naturally draw others to it.

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When You Know Who You Are

… you stand apart from the crowd.

When you don’t know who you are, you get LOST in that crowd.

Everyone wants to be SOMEBODY, but the only way we become a somebody is to make sure that we do NOT become just ANYBODY. 

It is human nature to seek acceptance and approval from others. But you are here in this life to live YOUR LIFE, not anyone else’s. So in essence, it doesn’t matter what other people think, it only matters what you think.

When you live your life according to the thoughts and opinions of others, you hide your light. But when you can express your own unique viewpoint, you share that light with the world and you become known and appreciated for that beautiful light.

You only become GREAT in life by knowing who you are – knowing your unique traits, knowing your unique strengths, knowing your unique perspective and being able to express that out into the world. Being your own unique self sets you apart from the crowd and gives you a competitive advantage.

Do you want to shine? Do you want to be GREAT? Do you want to make a mark on the world? Step aside of the crowd. Do things YOUR WAY.

When you know who you are and you strive to express that everyday, you become known for who you are/what you represent BUT when you hide behind others’ ideals, you get lost in the crowd of mediocrity.

It is always your choice. Where do you stand in your life? Do you know who you are? People who know who they are are extraordinary beings and their light always shines. Conversely, people who fit in NEVER get seen. Where do you want to stand?

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Finding Yourself

… is a lifelong journey.

Not a destination.

Who you are takes time to unravel. It doesn’t happen overnight.

There’s nowhere you have to be. You have only to let yourself BE and let yourself walk your own path to finding your life purpose.

You are a sum of your life experiences and those experiences make you who you are and they put you on a path towards defining your purpose in life.

Do you know what you want to do with your life? Do you know what you are here to share with others? Living your life one step at a time and allowing yourself to find those answers organically is what will put you on a path towards personal success NOT forcing yourself into a certain career or job sector. Let yourself breathe and be who you are. Explore ideas and concepts that appeal to you and interest you. The seeds of your life work are always in your interests.

Also, don’t measure yourself against anyone else’s criteria. Live your life. Enjoy your experiences and keep your head up and your eyes ahead – don’t sleep walk your way through your life. Finding yourself is a divine process and one which unravels like the skin of an onion.

Don’t put a time limit on finding yourself. It is a life-long process – a true journey into the heart of your soul. You can’t just be “there,” you have to get to your heart slowly – one step at a time.  Once you find yourself you realize there was never any other place to be.

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People’s Opinions

… are theirs, NOT YOURS.

They have absolutely no bearing over your life, unless you give it to them.

You don’t need anyone’s opinion to be who you are. No one needs to agree with you or needs to agree with how you are showing up and/or how you are living your life.

If who you are doesn’t work for someone, then that person doesn’t work in your life and their opinions subsequently should be of little consequence to you.

You only get ONE life to live (this time around anyway), why would you spend it trying to be something for someone else? People who need you to be something other than who you are don’t like themselves. And if they do not like themselves, chances are their opinions of you will not be very favorable.

It doesn’t matter what people think. It only matters what YOU THINK. Don’t live your life in fear of what other people might think about you. Take back your control and put that energy back into yourself and your work and build your life. When you learn to really love and value yourself, your life takes off in amazing ways and you will find that other people’s opinions of you change in your favor without your even trying.

It’s not about what other people think, it’s about what YOU THINK. If you want others to like you and accept you, learn to like and accept yourself. It’s your life and when you can live it and learn to love it and support it, you will find that others will easily follow suit.

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To Be a Beautiful Snowflake

… you have to stand out in the COLD.

And no one likes to stand out in the cold. It usually means that you are alone and uncomfortable.

But the snowflake can only exist out in the cold. It is the only place that can support it.

We are all beautiful snowflakes – one-of-a-kind, original and unique. We can only thrive and be ourselves when we stand out in the cold and stand up for who we are. It is not always convenient and not always comfortable but always necessary in the evolution of our lives.

Being who you are means respecting your needs, wants, interests and fears – the whole package and standing up for it even if it is inconvenient and uncomfortable. There will even be times when you will be unpopular or even misunderstood.

No one should ever doubt themselves, their worth or their value. Everyone is unique and beautiful in their own right and everyone is worth fighting for. To truly be that beautiful snowflake, you have to stand out in the cold. It’s easy to stay inside in the warmth. It’s harder to take a stand and defend who you are by taking the road less traveled. After all, the cold isn’t for everyone, but the cold will certainly attract just the right ones to you. Do you want to be like everyone else and take the easy way out or do you want to work hard to take a stand and be yourself? The rest of your life awaits your decision. Who will you be?

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Who You Are

… is good enough.

In fact, it is better than good enough. It’s awesome.

At an early age we are trained in our society that we have to conform to a certain standard for social acceptance and respect in our communities. We mistakenly believe we have to attend the “right schools,” hold the “right jobs,” live in the “right type of home” in the “right neighborhood” and be part of the “right social group,” etc…

Where has all this “righteousness” gotten us? Devoid of any individuality, that’s for sure. Conformity is never the answer. It is better to stand apart from the crowd and rest in the knowledge that who you are is ALWAYS better than the sum of the conformists combined.

When we sell ourselves out for acceptance into a group, we lose ourselves. By conforming to another’s standard, you never become YOU. Conformity depletes your power and renders you “just another lemming in a sea of lemmings.” But when you rise above conformity and focus on your own individuality, you soar higher than any lemming partner.

It doesn’t matter what others think of you. It ONLY matters what you think of you. You are not responsible for other people’s lives, you are only responsible for your own. If you are caught up living a life that isn’t your own but that you think looks good, you will forever be caught in a sea of monotony and never find your true direction. Finding who you are means breaking all the rules and redefining them on your own terms. Bring the color back to your life, empower yourself to make your own choices. If you stand as an individual with integrity, purpose and kindness, people will naturally be drawn to you.

But even if others do not follow you, they will always respect you for being an individual. It is much harder but more gratifying to walk the path less traveled. Think about it… it is easier to join a group and blindly follow their definition of success then it is to put it out there yourself and strive for something higher.

Who you are is good enough. It always was. Don’t trade it in for some ideal of acceptance. That is never the way to grow higher in life, it’s the way to keep yourself locked in mediocrity.

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Life is Not a Popularity Contest

… it doesn’t matter who likes you, it only matters that YOU like you.

In life, you are not always going to be everyone’s cup of tea, and that HAS to be alright. Nor should you want to be everyone’s cup of tea. We are not in high school anymore, your value and self-worth should not be judged by what other people think of you. It should come from within. The only judgment we should be concerned with in life is the judgment we place on ourselves.

We tend to look outside of ourselves for validation within. We compare ourselves to others – what they are doing with their careers, how they are living, how successful they are, their relationships, etc… Your life will never be yours if you are forever looking to others for inspiration.

Here’s the deal… Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to understand you. Not everyone is going to “get you.” It’s just the way it is. Feel great about yourself anyway because who you are is ALWAYS good enough. In fact, it is better than good. It is perfect.

When you can learn to love the person that you are separate from those around you, that is when your life will really take off. Channel all that energy – thinking about all those people and what they are doing “better than you” and how you are measuring up and put that energy into your goals, your passions and really start to feed your soul from the inside-out. You will start to see that you will emanate a glow that will make others want to be near you. Popularity is an inside job. Do the work inside, and the world around you will be magnetically drawn to you. 

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