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images… gets you walked on.

There’s no way around it. If you roll out a doormat outside your front door, people will naturally step all over it. And why not? That’s what it’s there for.

The same holds with your personal relationships – all relationships. It all comes down to personal boundaries. How clear are you with your boundaries? Do you let others cross them from time to time? Do you tend to take the path of least resistance and give others the benefit of the doubt? Do you like to refrain from “rocking the boat?” That is all wonderful until conceding becomes compromising.

Being nice doesn’t win you the race. Being authentic to yourself does. It’s very simple. If you allow others to walk all over you – even just once – you are telling the universe that you do not deserve better and that you are ok with a given state of behavior.

You should NEVER be ok with taking a back seat to bad behavior. Being nice does NOT negate the energy of accepting less than you deserve. The only thing that will change bad behavior is enforcing boundaries. If you set up your boundaries upfront, people will know that there are boundaries in existence and that they cannot be crossed. But if you never establish boundaries, others will push the edges to see how far they can go. It is human nature.

If you do not want to be walked on, take the doormat off the front porch. Explain to your guests as they come in that in your house, guests take off their shoes. After all, it’s YOUR house and they should abide by YOUR rules. Establish those rules upfront and you will find that in life, people will seldom cross them or will at least think twice about it.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

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Accepting Crumbs… will never get you the full loaf of bread.

Accepting less than you deserve will only succeed in drawing less than satisfying situations into your life over and over again. In other words, if you make it a habit of accepting crumbs from lovers, bosses, family members or friends, then crumbs is what you will get. End of story.

When you exhibit a level of contentedness with those crumbs, you set a precedent and define a boundary of “being ok with getting less than you deserve”. This sends out the signal that you do not need or require more to be happy. You can no longer blame your significant other or boss, etc… for them not treating you better. In essence you have told them it is not necessary to give you more. Don’t sit around and wait and hope for someone to give you what you want. It will never happen. Decide that you will not spend one more hour wanting for what you need, be direct and tell them exactly what you want. If you do, you have half a chance of actually getting it.

One thing is for sure, if there is something that you need or want in life, articulate it and do not accept those crumbs. Crumbs never satisfy your hunger. They leave you frustrated, obsessive and hungry for more. After awhile of only getting crumbs, you begin to get resentful and angry. But whose fault is it? You do not get what you do not ask for.

Throw out those crumbs and demand a full loaf of bread, if not the entire bakery. We cannot sustain ourselves on crumbs alone. There is a whole bakery out there with your name on it. Stop the hunger and start satiating yourself with what you truly deserve.

Read more inspiration in Donnalynn’s new Book, “Life Lessons,” click here.

If you would like more information on Emotional Wellbeing and Life Coaching Sessions with Donnalynnclick here.

If you would like to read some reviews on Donnalynn’s Coachingclick here.

If you would like to schedule a session with Donnalynn, click here.

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