Mending Wounds

We are all a bit broken. Everyone of us.

It is not the fact that you are broken that’s an issue, it is for you to recognize the parts of yourself that are wounded and allow yourself to heal those wounds everyday. In other words, you do the work.

Our wounds are like giant holes leaving us feeling empty and alone. Most people fall into the abyss of those holes and go right down to the bottom. They allow themselves to feel more and more broken and empty everyday. They wait and hope that someone or something will come into their life and fill those empty holes, but that never works. Those holes can never be filled from outside of you. In many cases, those holes never really fill completely. But in life, we must cross over that hole to get to the other side so that we can have new experiences and move on with our lives.

There isn’t a magic bullet or perfect prescription for how to “do the work” and “mend our wounds.” We always want answers in life but unfortunately answers are never simple. You can never really fill the hole completely, but you can learn how to navigate around it to get to the other side. In many ways, mending wounds is akin to building a bridge. Sometimes navigating the hole entails building yourself that bridge to get you over the pain.

The goal is to not stay stuck in the hole. Want more for yourself. Figure out how you can learn to circumvent the hole. What bridges can you build yourself that will successfully take you over your pain and to the other side where the sunlight is shining and your possibilities are endless? Remember don’t focus on “filling the hole,” focus on building a creative bridge to get you across to the other side. Whatever that bridge may be, know that at its essence the bridge is lined with self-love. Love yourself enough to find anyway to make yourself happy. The rest will heal in time. A series of bridges can and always will help the hole to heal. Before you know it, you won’t need a bridge. You will be able to step right across that hole and into the ideal life you’ve created for yourself.

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Time

We are always pressed for it… we never have enough of it… and we always run out of it.

Time is a universally misunderstood concept. It is illusory in nature. The more we grasp for it, the more we feel deprived of it, the more it adversely affects our lives.

How we see things in life, is ultimately how they show up for us. We have a choice everyday as to how we are going to view what we have on our plates. We can choose to view our lives as “busy – leading a full and enriching life” OR we can choose to view our lives as “busy – stressed and strung out.” The choice is always ours. How we define “busy” within the structure of time makes all the difference for us.

We tend to get caught up in the drama of our schedules and our to-do lists. We let our minds run away from us and we surrender our own control over to the mind and its fluctuations (the chita vrittis) and expect that it alone will govern our wellbeing. That never works. We are the ones who are supremely in control of our thoughts and how we experience every moment.

If we could choose to be fully present in each moment, then time would expand in those moments and we would find that we would feel more relaxed and calm and more at ease. That means, be where you are – don’t project yourself ahead of you into your next meeting, next presentation, next dinner, next social obligation. If you allow yourself to experience each moment as it comes, time will slow down for you and you will be able to enjoy your day without anxiety and angst. It is when we do not live in the moment, that times speeds up for us because we are continually reaching for a moment that is NOT now but in the future. So naturally time will be rushed because our minds are running ahead of us, doing just that.

Slow down. Take a breath. Be in the moment. Savor everything the moment has to bring. When we focus on what is right in front of us, life slows down to a pace that we can work with. The choice is always yours. How do you view “busy?” Do you want to lead a full life or do you want to feel stressed out? Don’t surrender your choice to the mind. Take back control of your life.

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