It is not the fact that you are broken that’s an issue, it is for you to recognize the parts of yourself that are wounded and allow yourself to heal those wounds everyday. In other words, you do the work.
Our wounds are like giant holes leaving us feeling empty and alone. Most people fall into the abyss of those holes and go right down to the bottom. They allow themselves to feel more and more broken and empty everyday. They wait and hope that someone or something will come into their life and fill those empty holes, but that never works. Those holes can never be filled from outside of you. In many cases, those holes never really fill completely. But in life, we must cross over that hole to get to the other side so that we can have new experiences and move on with our lives.
There isn’t a magic bullet or perfect prescription for how to “do the work” and “mend our wounds.” We always want answers in life but unfortunately answers are never simple. You can never really fill the hole completely, but you can learn how to navigate around it to get to the other side. In many ways, mending wounds is akin to building a bridge. Sometimes navigating the hole entails building yourself that bridge to get you over the pain.
The goal is to not stay stuck in the hole. Want more for yourself. Figure out how you can learn to circumvent the hole. What bridges can you build yourself that will successfully take you over your pain and to the other side where the sunlight is shining and your possibilities are endless? Remember don’t focus on “filling the hole,” focus on building a creative bridge to get you across to the other side. Whatever that bridge may be, know that at its essence the bridge is lined with self-love. Love yourself enough to find anyway to make yourself happy. The rest will heal in time. A series of bridges can and always will help the hole to heal. Before you know it, you won’t need a bridge. You will be able to step right across that hole and into the ideal life you’ve created for yourself.