Staying Stuck

… keeps you locked in a bad place.

And who wants to be locked in a bad place?

We seldom realize that we are the ones who have put ourselves into bad places. We are so quick to give up our power over our lives and say that something or someone else is responsible for holding us back. But the truth is, we are responsible for holding ourselves back – no one else is. No one has control over your life unless you give it to them. End of story.

Sometimes we find ourselves swirling in a negative cyclone of emotions and wondering why things are not changing for us? Almost as if we cannot get out of the space we are in. If you find yourself in this space, this is your indication that you are in a rut and you have unfortunately put yourself there by allowing it to continue.

Being stuck is like being caught in a doughnut hole. You keep spiraling and spiraling around with no way out and the walls seem too thick to penetrate. Since the energy that is trapped is negative, it holds a very dense and low vibration that is very heavy and overwhelming. It keeps you stuck in the hole and makes it almost impossible to see the light of day.

How do we break the cycle and climb out of the doughnut hole? Allow change. Any change. Any small amount of change in your life will work to infuse lighter, clearer energy into that doughnut hole and break up the stagnancy so that you may be lifted out of your own trap.

Life is too short to keep yourself stuck in a hole. Take small steps towards change. Invite fresh energy in and watch how life suddenly lifts you out of your hole.

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People Who Criticize

… are usually the ones who have the most work to do.

Everyone has issues. EVERYONE.

Conscious people are the ones who KNOW what their issues are and do not blame others for their own shortcomings.  But not everyone is conscious. Not everyone owns up to their inadequacies.

One of the major life lessons a person can have is known as “self-perfection”. Individuals with this life lesson are here to do serious work on themselves – to “perfect themselves” so to say. But all too often, those with this life lesson may become somewhat misguided and as a result demand perfection of everyone around them instead of themselves. It is easier for them to find fault in you then it is for them to turn the mirror on themselves.

Those who continually find fault in others are generally those who have the most work to do on themselves and they are conveniently avoiding looking at their own behavior.

Do your work. Know what your issues are and give the rest back. Don’t own what is not yours. If you take it on, you will start to embody it in no time. When your critics start to judge you, you should be able to detach from their commentary with a sense of ease. Recognize that the person you are dealing with is having issues doing their own work. Yours is not to save them or fix them. Yours is to not own their criticisms. Yours is to turn the mirror back on them and walk away with your head up high.

Owning “what is yours” empowers you, it holds you responsible and accountable for your life. It makes you stronger and wiser and brings great rewards to the table for you.

Those who prefer holding others accountable are not accepting responsibility for their life. They are the ones who remain lost – for without blame they have no sense of recourse. For sure, they remain stuck by their own hand.

Take control back of your life. Own what is yours and turn the mirror back on those who just cannot see.

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It All Comes Out in the Wash

… looking better than it ever did!

Life doesn’t always seem fair. It doesn’t always seem just. But I will tell you this…. it is always divine.

There is always a plan in place that you might not realize.

We never really understand why things happen the way they happen. Never judge an event as being “unfair” to you because you never know exactly why it is happening. We rarely see the bigger picture in place. It may feel as if you continually lose battles, but you may indeed be on the path to winning the war.

Never judge a book by its cover, they say. The secret is to always to do YOUR best and not try to compete with others whose practices might seem dubious at best. Everyone’s efforts will yield the results they sow however long it takes to get there. People can only hide who they are and what they have been doing for so long, the universe ultimately catches up with each and every one of us and makes us accountable for all our actions.

So instead of getting upset the next time “your promotion and raise” goes to someone whom you feel is not as worthy, remind yourself that there is always something there that you do not realize about the situation. Life has an uncanny way of rebalancing the scales and they always get rebalanced when the time is right.

Everything always comes out in the wash. It has to. When you come clean, there is nowhere to hide. Trust your path. Trust that the efforts you put out will always be rewarded. Even if it seems in the short term that you are being “punished.” Trust that your path is divine and that your rewards are just around the corner. No good deed ever goes unrewarded. That is just the way life works.

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What Your Resist, Persists

…what you look at disappears.

In life, we fail to realize that everything is energy. When you do not want to have a specific experience because you deem it negative, you resist that experience. That action of resistance is a firm and decisive action that tells the universe, NO. But what we are not seeing is that it does not alleviate the experience you are having. It only brings more “NO” to your door. By resisting something, you are putting the energy of NO out into the universe.

For example, if you do not want to feel emotional pain from a relationship and you fight the experience you are having because you cannot surrender to the pain and transform it, then you only manage to perpetuate the pain you are feeling. And what is worse, you are putting out the sign on your front door saying, “No.” Again, that no does not stop your pain, but it will certainly put an end to good experiences that were coming your way. No simply attracts more NO – no happiness, no good fortune, no laughter, no new relationship, etc… No says means NO or nothing.

If we could learn to surrender to our life lessons and all experiences – both good and bad and not fight them, then we would remain open enough to invite the energy of “openness” or YES to the table. The sooner you can accept your situation and surrender to it’s greater lesson, the sooner that energy of YES will transform the situation and open you up to more positive experiences. Yes says, “I am open, I am willing, I would like to receive.”

Surrender to your experience and allow whatever is going to be, to be. Remember, what you resist, persists (and by doing so encourages the energy of NO). What you look at disappears (and by doing so transforms all experiences into YES). It is, by definition, always your choice.

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A Hole Brings You Deeper

… it just does.

As pedantic as that sounds, these are truly words to live by.

All of us have “holes” in us. These are empty and void places inside of us where we have suffered from pain. Some people will allow those holes to consume them, even define them. They allow themselves to feel broken because of them.

The role of a hole is not to break you or take you down into it, the role is to take you deeper into yourself. It is a type of character building and the lessons are rich. We emerge from every hole a stronger, more balanced and more beautiful being.

We should never identify ourselves with the pain that the hole inflicts upon us, but we should identify with that place of strength, grace and fortitude that that hole brings us to. By going deeper, one finds jewels – whether we speak of diamonds and other precious jewels/metals or even buried treasures. The deeper you go, the higher the probability one will strike “gold.” The gold you find is the essence of who you are.

As we say, don’t stay stuck in the hole, learn its lessons and appreciate it for the teachings and for the level of understanding it brought you to. These are great gifts in the game of life. That which tears us down, brings us to the heart of who we are. Only by being brought to your knees, can one understand how powerful they truly are to remain upright at all.

Your holes are your tapestry – they make you who you are. They tell the story of what you have endured and where you have come from. The more holes you have, the more you have truly lived and the more learnings you have to share with others.

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The Truth Behind Sarcasm

… it is always there.

Don’t kid yourself, there is ALWAYS an element of truth behind every sarcastic remark. Every biting comment has a reason for being.

No doubt, people who are sarcastic are very entertaining. They have a way of saying things that others cannot say. But are they truly representing themselves or are they hiding behind their words?

In life, self-expressionism is key – the ability to speak your mind freely and willingly is what keeps you alive and thriving. But many people are too frightened to say what they need to say for fear of being judged, persecuted or fear of being vulnerable. Never censor yourself. If people do not like you for who you are and what you have to say, then they are not worth it. Never try to be something you are not.

Sarcastic individuals hide behind their humor and delivery. There is a sense of acceptance when they give a sarcastic remark that might not otherwise be tolerated. It is sort of a back-handed way of getting your point across. The problem with sarcasm is not just that it is a deep-seated example of passive aggressiveness and repression but it is also contains an extremely heavy and negative energy which breeds more of the same. Sarcasm carries many elements of jadedness, bitterness, anger, frustration, resentment, etc… It is not a freeing style of communication. This negativity is binding to the person who harbors it and also becomes toxic to those who engage it.

The truth behind sarcasm is that there is ALWAYS truth in every sarcastic comment. When we learn to allow ourselves to truly be who we are, we no longer need to hide behind a shroud of biting humor. That type of humor no longer becomes necessary to get our point across. When we let go of our fear of being judged and open up to being more vulnerable, our communication softens and our humor becomes less acidic/edgy and more engaging and inspiring. What’s your truth?

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