Fear Clips Your Wings

… but you were always meant to soar.

Fear is a powerful emotion that comes on to protect you from a perceived harm. Fear keeps you “safely” out of situations and keeps you in your nest. But you do not grow in your nest. You only grow from learning what it feels like to fall out of your nest and learn to take flight on your own. You expand your horizons and go to new places and create new nests – this the game of life.

It is important to keep tabs on fear or it has the ability to take over our lives. Often times, fear manifests as anxiety and panic attacks. When you feel anxiety and panic, it’s the body’s way of trying to protect you from a situation or a person you deem harmful. Fear is also your indicator that you are dealing with a life lesson. Anxiety and panic are nothing more than a trigger for you to realize that the discomfort you are feeling is because you are dancing face to face with one of your life lessons – and that is NEVER easy. Here is where the work begins.

Fear would have you run from your life lesson and never learn it – maybe take a pill to quiet the trigger and numb the reminder that you have work to do. You can only do that for so long, your lessons always come back with a vengeance. The work is in recognizing where your patterns are and shedding light on them. Once you realize where the anxiety is coming from, you can begin to heal the experience and apply wisdom to help you move forward in your life.

The answer is always to move through the fear so you can transform it. If you find yourself avoiding situations so to not experience the discomfort of fear, then you are hiding in your nest. You can spend a lifetime in your nest. Ask yourself if you really want to do that? When there is a whole world out there for you to see and you have a beautiful set of wings, it might be time to spread them and take flight. Taking flight is the only thing that will transform your fear.

Time to leap out of that nest. If you allow yourself to stay there, fear will certainly clip your wings and you will never learn to fly. What options do you really have?

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Believing in Yourself

… is a game changer.

And who doesn’t want to change the rules of the game in their favor?

Believing in yourself is the ultimate secret to success in life. The problem is that many of us do not believe in ourselves. In life, those who are the most intelligent and most gifted are usually the ones who doubt themselves the most. They know too much and therefore realize that there is so much more that they still do not know and because of that they are the first to undermine themselves and feel inadequate and unable to compete.

On the other hand, ignorance is always bliss. Those who do not know as much, are usually the ones that blindly charge into opportunities because they have no fear of not knowing enough. They do not know any better so they always go for it. They believe in themselves simply because they do not overthink situations. Since they do not know that they do not know, they take more chances and put it out there more easily.

When you STOP judging yourself and stop applying negative energy such as doubt and fear to situations, you will succeed. Don’t question your intention or your ability to do something, just do it. You are the only one standing in your way. If you are going to apply thought to situations, why not apply positive thinking to support where you want to go in life? As soon as negative thinking steps in, you hold yourself back.

Welcome to the game of life – believing in yourself is the game changer. Get with the program and learn the strategy. Choose NOT to believe in your limitations but believe in your dreams and they will always come true.

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It All Comes Out in the Wash

… looking better than it ever did!

Life doesn’t always seem fair. It doesn’t always seem just. But I will tell you this…. it is always divine.

There is always a plan in place that you might not realize.

We never really understand why things happen the way they happen. Never judge an event as being “unfair” to you because you never know exactly why it is happening. We rarely see the bigger picture in place. It may feel as if you continually lose battles, but you may indeed be on the path to winning the war.

Never judge a book by its cover, they say. The secret is to always to do YOUR best and not try to compete with others whose practices might seem dubious at best. Everyone’s efforts will yield the results they sow however long it takes to get there. People can only hide who they are and what they have been doing for so long, the universe ultimately catches up with each and every one of us and makes us accountable for all our actions.

So instead of getting upset the next time “your promotion and raise” goes to someone whom you feel is not as worthy, remind yourself that there is always something there that you do not realize about the situation. Life has an uncanny way of rebalancing the scales and they always get rebalanced when the time is right.

Everything always comes out in the wash. It has to. When you come clean, there is nowhere to hide. Trust your path. Trust that the efforts you put out will always be rewarded. Even if it seems in the short term that you are being “punished.” Trust that your path is divine and that your rewards are just around the corner. No good deed ever goes unrewarded. That is just the way life works.

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Bend, Don’t Break

… learn to be flexible.

Learn to let things wash over you.

When we try to resist hardship, change, pain or heartbreak, we make it harder then it needs to be. Don’t fight the experience, learn to let it wash over you and leave you.

Many of us attach to the hardship, we personalize it and over-dramatize it and create bigger obstacles then need to be surmounted. Negative energy builds upon itself. If you want to create a monster, you can. What you resist, persists, but what you learn to look at disappears.

Be flexible, learn to navigate life with ease and grace no matter what is going on around you and you will ALWAYS have a better result. The slight and fragile blade of grass is still standing after a great storm, but the tall, resistant oak tree will be snapped in half. Strength does not guarantee success but the ability to yield to trouble allows you more options for survival. In the middle of the storm, bending and yielding buys you time until the sun comes out. If you resist, you will always be snapped in half… and Game Over.

Let each storm pass through you and as it does it will teach you something about yourself. It changes you and you find that you truly learn how to weather the storm. In life, don’t resist the inevitable… power through it, allow it to pass through you over and over again until the storm stops. When all is said and done, you will be the one left standing.

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Don’t Look Back

… you are not going that way.

Referencing the past. keeps you stuck in it.

In life, moving on is the name of the game. Never do we want to look back for the answers. Looking back will never help you move forward. It just never will.

Whatever challenge you have come through needs to stay in the past – whether it be a break-up, divorce, bankruptcy, getting fired, etc… Challenges are meant to be overcome and moved beyond. Don’t dwell on the negativity. Don’t allow feelings of guilt, regret or pain keep you stuck in a cycle of decreasing self-worth.

Now, this does not mean ignore your weaknesses and pretend your issues are not yours. It simply means when dealing with memories of the past, it is critical that you get the lesson and get out. Don’t continue to relive the situation and the emotions in your mind over and over again. Learn what you need to learn and shut it down. Move forward with those lessons and make positive change in your life.

Carrying the heavy burden of those past memories only drags you down and slows your growth. It keeps you locked in the past and keeps it alive in your heart.

Your past is your past for a reason. If it was supposed to be in your present, it would be and if it is supposed to be in your future, it will be. But looking back at it only keeps you stuck and doesn’t allow you to get on with your life. Keep walking. If your past is meant to be with you, it will come and find you when the time is right.

Never look back for the answers… only look ahead. Your life is ahead of you, not behind you. 

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Moving On

… is truly the purpose of life.

But unfortunately we never see it that way. We get caught up in the daily dramas of life and tend to allow our challenges to overwhelm us and sometimes win over us.

Life is filled with challenges. Yours is to NOT give in to the challenges, yours is to

FACE them. 

RISE ABOVE them.

GROW from them. 

and make yourself BETTER because of them.

No one said life was going to be easy. If you wanted easy, you wouldn’t have chosen this life. You are here because you chose to evolve. So here is where the work begins.

Don’t spend you life hiding under rocks from those challenges. Those challenges represent your life lessons. They are there for a reason. They are there to test your reserve and your fortitude. They are there to bring up your darkest fears and insecurities. They are there to force you to look into the mirror and see who you really are. You really learn who you are once you have overcome a huge obstacle in your life. We say it is “character building.”

Sometimes your challenges can drop you to your knees but again, yours is not to lie down and sulk, yours is to get right back up and keep walking. Moving on is the name of the game. That is the only way you can transform the lesson. Do you want to live your life like a coward hiding under a rock or do you want to meet those challenges face-on screaming “Give me your best shot!”. Who you are is always greater than your lessons. Always. Who you are will always persevere against adversity and all challenges but you must believe in yourself for it to be so.

Don’t decide to roll over and feign death – you cannot hide from your challenges. You can buy yourself time – maybe a year or two – but that challenge will always come back with a vengence and when it does the lesson always gets harder.

Stand up to your challenges and transform them. Move on with your life. Make your life better because of what you have gone through. The rest of your life awaits and it is filled with many rich rewards for all your bravery.

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Focusing on Problems

… NEVER brings solutions.

Simply put…

The less you think of trouble, the less of it you get.

The more you think of things that please you, the better you will feel.

And the better you feel, the better things will go for you.

End of story. ’Tis one of the spiritual laws of the universe.

But in our society, we love to dwell on the negative and more importantly we like to play the victim and wallow in states of self-pity. Somehow we find solace in misery. And as we know, misery loves company.

If we could remember that everything is energy and everything that we attract to us is contingent on our energetic vibration, then we would realize that we are supremely in control of our lives. If we are filled with love and happiness and self-contentedness, then every person and situation we attract to us will be loving, supportive and happy. But if we are focused on self-loathing, insecurity and fear, we will only succeed in drawing to us vibrational matches to those low level energies. And before you know it, we are surrounded with mean, selfish and harsh people and situations.

Think: vibrational match. When you want to attract something, you have to focus on those qualities – the perfect relationship, the perfect job, happy friendships, etc… but at the same token, if we do NOT WANT SOMETHING, we have to be very careful NOT TO PUT OUR ATTENTION ON IT. Our mere attention to the problem, feeds the negative energy and “stokes the fire.” If you do not want something in your life, DO NOT focus on it. If you have to solve it – solve it quickly and objectively and shut it down. Do not get entwined in the emotionality of the situation. That negative emotionality is what will begin to bring forth more of the same and only succeed in complicating your problems.

Not only do you get what you give, but you get what you think about. If you do not want it in your life, do not give it any attention whatsoever. 

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You Get What You Give

… so make sure what you are giving is exactly what you want to be receiving!

Seems simple enough, right? But we forget this simple precept all the time. We are our own worst enemies. We are the ones who complicate our own lives. We do this by unconsciously putting out behavior to the world that does not serve us.

When you are connected to the universal flow, things just work – you catch that subway when you are running late, you get just the right job lead when you need it – you are always in the right place at the right time. On the contrary, when you are in a cycle of “Murphy’s Law” and feel as if you are hitting your head against a wall and getting stuck at every corner, you are NOT in the universal flow. Life is meant to flow with ease, when it doesn’t, it is time to look at what it is you are putting out that might be deterring you from a life of ease and good fortune.

Life shows up for us as a direct response to our actions. If we are putting out short-tempered behavior latent with anger, hate, envy, bitterness or hurtful sarcasm, then that negative energy creates instant roadblocks for us and puts up walls that create many obstacles on our path. In other words, that curt comment you shouted at the store clerk will go further to undermine your performance at the job interview later that morning then anything else. Everything is connected. And when you are not connected, you are the one who loses.

You get what you give. The energy you expend will always come back to you tenfold – both positive and negative. If you find yourself constantly hitting roadblocks, it is time to slow down, take a step back, take a breath and consciously shift your energy to a higher thought or vibration – one that encourages a positive outcome both for yourself and for the world around you. Life is too short to be hitting your head on the wall over and over again. Recognize that there is always a better way of showing up.

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Think Before You Act

… you can’t take it back.

Believe it or not all words and actions have consequences. Some more severe than others. Sometimes when we are out of balance in our lives, we make impulsive decisions that may affect our futures. These impulsive decisions are made simply with the intent to make us feel better in the moment and NOT made for our highest good.

Life is meant to be led one step at a time. Every emotion is meant to be felt and dealt with, not run from. If you are making an impulsive decision to feel better in the moment and run from your pain, it will catch up with you. You cannot run from yourself and life offers us no “quick fixes,” that is for sure.

Slow down, take life one step at a time. Ask yourself before you make ANY decision, “is this decision going to bring me to where I want to be in my life” OR “is it going to sabotage my job, my love, or my relations with friends and family?” Once we slow down and process the implications of our actions, we may find that we are in a better place to make a different decision.

It is in a calm and centered space that we find the ability to NOT react hastily and make a decision we may regret. Life is too short to impulsively throw it away on a bad decision. No one needs to look back and regret something they have done. Stop. Slow down. Be in the moment and think before you act. I promise you if you live your life from this centered space, you will always make an informed decision NOT an impulsive one. We want to own our lives, not regret them.

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The Emotional Roller Coaster

… we have all jumped on board and gone for the ride.

How enjoyable is it really? For those of us who are emotionally balanced, it is NOT. For those of us learning the very difficult life lesson of “finding balance” in life, it proves to be an on-going ride of extremes.

This is how it works…. those who seek to be balanced will be continually drawn into high drama situations with high drama people and lots of crisis and chaos along the way. In other words, they undergo a type of life plan that continually sends them into high-highs and low-lows over and over again. This wild swing is meant to make them so miserable that they learn to stop reaching for what they think is going to make them feel better (a drink, drug, food, unhealthy relationship, travel escape, etc..) and begin to start slowing down the rate of the swing to find themselves at their own center-point.

The important thing to remember in life is that no one intentionally chooses to torture themselves per se. They choose to undergo this difficult learning lesson so that they can grow and evolve into a healthier and happier being – one who fully understands that his/her happiness will not be found in an impulsive reach for extremes.

By experiencing ourselves out of balance time and time again, we can begin to start finding our own center point.

It doesn’t end here… once you have found your own center point and achieved supreme balance in yourself, it is critical that you NOT impulsively jump on someone else’s emotional roller coaster ride! In other words, once you have learned this lesson yourself and you consciously decide to join forces with another who has NOT yet learned this lesson, you will be intensifying your own experience – you will now be on THEIR emotional roller coaster of life.

If you have already learned this lesson, it is important to find someone who possesses the same amount of stability, security and emotional peace you have already found in yourself. If you want life to be easier, calmer and more centered, learn to slow down your swing and for sure, learn to stay off other people’s swing sets.

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