Think Before You Act

… you can’t take it back.

Believe it or not all words and actions have consequences. Some more severe than others. Sometimes when we are out of balance in our lives, we make impulsive decisions that may affect our futures. These impulsive decisions are made simply with the intent to make us feel better in the moment and NOT made for our highest good.

Life is meant to be led one step at a time. Every emotion is meant to be felt and dealt with, not run from. If you are making an impulsive decision to feel better in the moment and run from your pain, it will catch up with you. You cannot run from yourself and life offers us no “quick fixes,” that is for sure.

Slow down, take life one step at a time. Ask yourself before you make ANY decision, “is this decision going to bring me to where I want to be in my life” OR “is it going to sabotage my job, my love, or my relations with friends and family?” Once we slow down and process the implications of our actions, we may find that we are in a better place to make a different decision.

It is in a calm and centered space that we find the ability to NOT react hastily and make a decision we may regret. Life is too short to impulsively throw it away on a bad decision. No one needs to look back and regret something they have done. Stop. Slow down. Be in the moment and think before you act. I promise you if you live your life from this centered space, you will always make an informed decision NOT an impulsive one. We want to own our lives, not regret them.

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Listen to Yourself

… and you will never be lead astray.

But how many of us can actually do that? Our minds are so cluttered and over-stimulated with such nonsense day in and day out that we can barely hear our intuition. We have also gotten very good at anesthetizing ourselves against our intuition through addiction: drugs, alcohol, sex, food, shopping, nicotine, etc… Addiction is a pre-occuping strategy to avoid the needs and calls of our soul. We can only sustain that pattern of behavior for so long before we break down. And we will always break down because we are going against the soul.

Our life is a delicate balance between the ego (personality) and the soul (higher self). The soul has planned this very lifetime and knows what lies ahead for us in terms of life lessons, romantic liasions, challenges, etc… The soul is constantly whispering in our ears, “go there, take that direction, try that out, explore that…” The voice in our head and the ideas that pop into our head in a seemingly random fashion are perfectly orchestrated by the soul to take us to that next level in our lives. But often times, we do not listen to it, or we are not capable of hearing it. We prefer to think that we know it all and we often times use our free will to move away from our intuitive nature.

If you want answers in your life, know that they never come from outside of you. You can ask for assistance and advice from others on your path, but nothing is a substitution for the directive of the soul. After all, your soul holds the blueprint of your life and knows exactly what you need to grow and learn, so why wouldn’t you ask it first?

We spend so much time in confusion and fear because we simply do not trust that we are the ones who have all the answers we seek. We are such an externally focused society that we have forfeited our beliefs in ourselves and continually give our power away to other people.

If you want answers in your life, go INSIDE. Get quiet for 5 minutes, sit in meditation, come to your yoga mat, pray and just LISTEN. You will always be given the answer in terms of a feeling, a knowing, an idea or even a sign from a friend or stranger, but you need to be conscious to fully recognize it – otherwise you will miss it completely. The language of the soul is very subtle and unfortunately our minds (as toxic as they have become) have the tendency to overpower our soul’s stirrings. Everything you need, you already have. Cut out the clutter and the drama of the ego and seek answers to your own questions. You will never lead yourself astray.

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A Moth to a Flame

Have you ever noticed that like a moth to a flame, we are hypnotically drawn to that which is not good for us? As human beings, every one of us has issues but unfortunately not every one of us is always consciously equipped to deal with them. We obviously all have the innate tools to do the work but somehow the draw of the “dangerous and forbidden” tends to be too alluring and seductive that we fall prey to our impulses and lose our way. We can see this manifest in a myriad of addictions (substance, sex and dysfunctional love) where self-sabbotage seems to reign king.

Once you begin the work and you are truly on a path of healing, you will no longer feel anesthetized by the warmth and glow of the flame. For once we get burned, consciousness becomes heightened and we begin to learn how to find another way to show up. Self-sabbotage begins to take a back seat to healing. Look at your patterns, where are you drawn to the “unhealthy” in your life? Do you go back to dysfunctional relationships hoping to make them work? Do you turn to food to fill an emotional need? Do you hide your pain behind smoking or recreational drugs/alcohol? These are all ways of coping and temporarily “band-aiding” a gaping wound that is crying out for attention. When you are ready to do the work, the teacher will appear. The answers will be given to you. And life as you know it will change for the better. You are never alone. You are never broken. You only need to wake up and feel the heat of the situation before you thrust yourself headfirst into the flame.

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